Posts by Half banana

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terrified but waking up, child abuse, suicide etc.

by anon1028 in

jw
friends

im new to this forum, i dont know where else to post my story, sorry if im wrong for posting this on this subject.

as i begin to wake up from being in the org i thought id introduce myself to this forum with how i was raised in the org..., ive been beginning to look at everyones stories from being raised as one and how they left, and i find comfort in knowing im not alone, so maybe another young person like me will find the same comfort reading my story.

as you can tell by my username, i am posting this on an anonymous account because of fear of what the elders would do to me and my parents if they found out who i was.

Half banana

Hello Anon 1028 and welcome to this site. Yes we do understand you! Sorry you are suffering at the moment.

It is clear that the JW organisation uses cruel methods to keep the membership locked down under its control. By using family loyalty as a weapon, it divides families and by using guilt and fear of death, it traps its members into a depressed and helpless state just as you are experiencing. But do not give up hope! You can overcome these problems like most of us here have done.

What the organisation does to all its followers is rob them of their individuality and it steals their free time so that everything a JW does ultimately empowers the governing body. Do think about this. Is it fair? Is it reasonable that they should dictate as to who you are and how you must live your life? What do they know that you don't? Why listen to them?

The governing body now admit they are not inspired by God and they acknowledge that they make mistakes, in fact we can ask, have they ever got anything right? No! they have never got any prophecy right, isn't it laughable that they claim that prophecies have happened by being fulfilled invisibly?... like God's Kingdom! What is the use of such teachings? It is just dry fodder for the cult donkeys to chew on, it is tasteless, useless and meaningless ......yet it is central to JW teaching.

Let me reassure you there are much much better ways of living other than being a JW! One way is to be yourself, not a nodding puppet in a religious pantomime.

May I suggest, plan your departure as you are already, save to get your own place where you can do as you want. Find some sensible friends, this is very important, then make up for lost education and get some certification from college, this will go a long way in getting more satisfying and better paying work. Already you write well and that is a good start (use paragraphs though!)

Remember that statistically, over time, most people leave the organisation -- and your family will be encouraged to do so as you prosper and become a free, happy and a responsible adult.

So don't be terrified, work towards your own goals.

All the best to you and keep posting so we can help you.

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new situation in world helpful to org?

by Magnum in

sometimes new situations can provide cover for one’s mistakes or intentions.

for example, suppose that i crack the windshield in my dad’s car one night.

i go home, park the car in its usual spot in the yard, and go to bed without telling my dad because i’m scared and i’m trying to think of a way out of the situation.

Half banana

Essentially the JW religion is a social club with paranoid beliefs as a ticket for membership. This community aspect would be more difficult to maintain as an e-religion.

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Hello everyone 😊

by SuperMarioDiMaggio in

i was a jehovah's witnesses for 15 years (1983-1998) in pietermaritzburg and durban, south africa.

i was baptised in 1985; appointed a ministerial servant in 1987 (aged 21); refused military service on religious grounds in 1989 (served a three year community service sentence) and was appointed an elder in 1993 (aged 26).

i wrote to the governing body in brooklyn four times between 1992-97, respectfully questioning the nonsense they were publishing about science and evolution (you can see all my correspondence and their hilarious replies here: http://bit.ly/jw-md-letters ).

Half banana

@Kosonen, it is not possible to to confirm a myth by physical evidence. The flood is just a story, it could not possibly have happened, it is made up by the human imagination the same imagination which will 'see' things falling into a pattern if the individual is primed to believe them.

The fact that there are a multitude of flood myths from all over the world indicates an event experienced universally. I suggest that the written flood myths including the Biblical, encapsulate ancient folk tales resulting from events of the climate transition from the very dry late Ice-Age (before 11000 BCE) to the modern comparatively rainy period familiar to us all today.

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Hello everyone 😊

by SuperMarioDiMaggio in

i was a jehovah's witnesses for 15 years (1983-1998) in pietermaritzburg and durban, south africa.

i was baptised in 1985; appointed a ministerial servant in 1987 (aged 21); refused military service on religious grounds in 1989 (served a three year community service sentence) and was appointed an elder in 1993 (aged 26).

i wrote to the governing body in brooklyn four times between 1992-97, respectfully questioning the nonsense they were publishing about science and evolution (you can see all my correspondence and their hilarious replies here: http://bit.ly/jw-md-letters ).

Half banana

Hello Mario, welcome to the site and thanks for posting your letters to the GB.

I can identify with your experience since I joined the cult when I was at school in the sixties and left about 1989. I also had curiosity for everything which became stifled by misplaced loyalty to the Watchtower.

As soon as I left I went whole heartedly into making up for wasted time and went to Birkbeck College for a course on paleoanthropology. I read scientific works and joined a university archeological dig to see for myself what the genus Homo was doing in the Old Stone Age. I also joined the Open university and later did other courses at Oxford for mature learners.

I don't know how well one can compensate for the utter waste of time and effort spent on this worthless religion? Your letters truly demonstrate that they have not got a clue as to an academic or scientific appraisal of knowledge. They are content quoting snippets of the Bible to 'prove' a point or to construct JW dogma, it is all so desperately superficial.

This naivete cannot last in the 21st century environment of better education and the cult is in fact is declining in the Western World. For how much longer do we have to put up with it?

(I loved the Mark Twain quote!)

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How many of you would actually believe a child abuser would let his crime be watched by minimum two witnesses?

by Thinkforyourself in

in many closed religious cults, sects or globally widely spread religions, sexual abuse on big scale is revealed and covered up by the religious authorities.

in the jw, the culture is to deal with these matters within the org itself, and the rule is, "no crime can be proven without the presentation of at least two witnesses".

men made the rules, men commit these crimes and men defend them and even forse these children to meet and talk to their abusers.

Half banana

Welcome TFY, no there is no love in sticking to the Iron Age wisdom upheld by Jehovah's Witnesses.

At the root of the use of the "two witnesses rule" is the demand by the governing body that they control all information rights, which is an indication of their cultic nature.

They want to limit adverse publicity by handling serious sexual abuse matters in house. This usually means either dismissing the claims, disfellowshipping the abuser (unless an elder when his word trumps lesser members) and often the abused as well if past puberty. Police involvement would lead to scandal and exposure not only on the individual cases but of the whole repressive organisation.

The essence of JW Christianity depends on the governing body's use of quotations from scriptures.The interpretation can be made in any light the governance sees fit. Always the explanation is to the end of enhancing their own control over their flock and rarely is the quotation considered in its historical context or the original source meaning. If it suits their purpose it is used -- and the flock are trained to obey their leaders on the basis that they are using 'God's Word'. If a JW disagrees with the Watchtower then they are excommunicated.

The fact that two witnesses are required in these abuse cases, at least to my mind, demonstrates that while they are indifferent to the abused who suffer greatly, their interest is solely in their own squeaky clean public image. Logic and care are sacrificed for Biblical literalism and their dire conceit that they are the only true religion.

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Riots one reason to own an AR15 and several 30 round or 100 round mags.

by phoenixrising in

i hear this from the leftist idiots all the time.

if someone breaks into your home 6 bullets are enough.

well if its a one of i would argue that i still my need more round for even just one person.

Half banana

From a British perspective it is more than worrying to hear people praising gun ownership.

P'rising, your obsessive pride and faith in gun ownership might well lead you to using your precious chosen weapon in a confontation and it's a 50/50 chance that the other gun owning obsessive will kill you.

No guns = no death from guns.

Human life is paramount as is the happiness which comes from mutual peace, not peace by the law of the bullet.

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Riots one reason to own an AR15 and several 30 round or 100 round mags.

by phoenixrising in

i hear this from the leftist idiots all the time.

if someone breaks into your home 6 bullets are enough.

well if its a one of i would argue that i still my need more round for even just one person.

Half banana

Guns are for killing people not for solving social problems

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Breaking: Beards in The Watchtower

by neat blue dog in

the latest issue of the watchtower shows a man with a beard praying.. .

i fully expected to see him 'progress' to clean-shaven in the following pictures, but instead he is still bearded when 'applying bible principles'.. .

i then realized that he was already featured on the cover itself.. .

Half banana

The objection to beards I suppose was when it still carried the idea that if you didn't shave you were a member of the great unwashed. The Wolrd Wars set the syle for minimal hair presence including being clean shaven. Militarism had no time for personal expressions in grooming when the demands of battle are focussed on obeying orders-- exactly as it is in the JW cult.

The really obvious symbolism of being clean shaven is the JW policy of cultivating the appearances of good religious people, if you look wholesome in a clean cut American way, then the religion looks attractive they think. Jesus condemned "appearances", whitewashed graves he called those who look clean and righteous but like Watchtower governing body policies, they conceal awful things.

By the way GB member Van Ambergh had a beard up until his death about 1947.

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Tips for a Slow Fade

by Huxley1979 in

jw
friends

i'm a born and raised witness.

i was an elder for almost 20 years.

almost the same in fulltime service.

Half banana

Welcome to the real world Aldous and well done for seeing through the charade.

When I realised it was a fraud, I began fading to the point of no fs and not answering at meetings. Eventually I completely stopped going to the meetings, oh my! what a relief that was. When an elder friend called at my house six weeks later, I told him "It (the JW religion) isn't for me". That seemed to stop them taking an interest in me and they just announced at the congo that I was no longer one of J's Ws. That turned out to be the instructions to shun me. So although I was not disfellowshipped, the consequences were the same.

In your situation you may want to take it slower or looser and am I right you have given up being an elder? Anyway here would be three suggestions, 1 yes fade as slowly as you want, 2 never verbalise criticism of the org to JWs, 3 find good friends outside of the organisation.

Wishing you well on your journey and keep in touch, we would love to hear how you are doing.

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Resurrection, Reconstruction? What is it? It never made sense to me. Your opinion.

by Wasanelder Once in

i never had much faith in whatever resurrection was.

what appealed to me about jw doctrines was the rejection of the "it's a mystery" defense of the indefensible.

when i would ask how going into non existence could be reversed when all the atomic parts of who we are had been scattered for thousands of years, the answer was "jehovah can do anything".

Half banana

Sea Breeze as a committed Christian, part of your faith involves an unquestioning belief in Biblical miracles. I am not trying to be offensive but this would disqualify critical thought because belief in the supernatural is belief in the impossible, when the impossible is acceptable then anything goes.

Your statement "nearly all critical and textual scholars" is not sound, (do not confuse "Bible scholars" with academic textual scholars) and even if you were accurate, it would not confirm the fiction of the last supper, trial and and death of the God man Jesus. There simply is no concrete evidence for this story, including the miraculous resurrection, outside of Christian propaganda. It is this propaganda and not historical fact which Habemas is quoting from.